biblical advice: 2009

Monday, December 21, 2009

What is the biblical way to deal with depression? Does the bible give advice on how to overcome depression?

I've been struggling with anxiety and depression off/on since my childhood. But now, ever since a long-term relationship ended a year ago, I find myself stuck. Even while taking antidepressants I feel depressed off/on throughout the month. The rejection of my ex, and the father of my 2 year old son, is just too much. He has moved on and I feel abandoned and betrayed and like a pathetic victim a year later.

I understand the importance of trying to have a positive attitude and I try, but I still have a pervasively sad mood. I'm trying to keep myself busy with work and school. I'm in college full time pursuing a nursing degree, work part-time and have my son the rest of the time. I have been seeing a counselor every week for a year now as well. I'm not sure if it's really helping, although it's nice to have her to talk to.

The majority of my life was wrapped around this man, his friends were my friends and so when we split they're really his friends. I have a few but I feel like they avoid me because I'm depressing. So I'm feeling lonely lately.

I am 30 years old and I'm so tired of feeling this way. I've prayed numerous times for help with this and it hasn't helped. And now I'm getting angry and jealous of other people's happiness, particularly my ex's, because I just can't seem to find that in my own life.

Is there any biblical advice on how to help with depression? I feel like I'm at loss and am having a hard time ';just thinking positive';.What is the biblical way to deal with depression? Does the bible give advice on how to overcome depression?
David said ';I WILL praise the Lord';

Psa 57:9 I will praise thee, O Lord, among the people: I will sing unto thee among the nations.

This is not a small matter...David realized the importance of WILL...He wrote some of his most beautiful psalms when King Saul was seeking his life and he was hiding among Israel's enemies, pretending to be ';mad'; and letting his spittle run down into his beard...David had REASON to be depressed. Yet he wrote:

2Sa 22:2 And he said, The LORD is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer;

2Sa 22:3 The God of my rock; in him will I trust: he is my shield, and the horn of my salvation, my high tower, and my refuge, my saviour; thou savest me from violence.

Esther \|/ also has good advice; I wouldn't hesitate to act upon it....Nehemiah PRAYED and asked for God's protection....Then stood up and posted a guard....There MAY be a medical reason for what you're experiencing. Perhaps you owe it to yourself to find out.What is the biblical way to deal with depression? Does the bible give advice on how to overcome depression?
If you are depressed, you have a responsibility to the people around you to try to get better. You can get better, you just have to keep trying. Seek professional help, they will definitely assist you in becoming better. Get over your issue and move on, life is too short.
Well start praying every night and every morning. Does your school have a L.D.S. ward in it? I would try looking up some one who is from the Church of Jesus Christ L.D.S. and see if they have a singles ward there. Start attending the services and you will find you make friends. Good luck and keep seeing your counselor.
Yes. It is difficult to dig out, because it is not addressed really specifically. Drink more water, get more 'B' vitamins, Take a good mineral supplement. Get more exercise, eat more good food, and less junk. (In the old country, we called them 'friends')
Justin know that God is in control. He tells us not to fret over the things that get in the way of praising Him to the fullest. It will all work out in the end. It is the Will of God. Let His will be done, not your own.

Peace in Christ!
Did you forget?!

The bible was written by men, not god!

Maybe stop praying, and start living your life. I wait that is a Christian life. Unless your looking to be brainwashed, i would ever look to the bible for *any* help. Use your brain!
“The past is our definition. we may strive, with good reason, to escape it, or to escape what is bad in it, but we will escape it only by adding something better to it.” Wendell Berry
Don't ask the Bible. The answers in there are usually horrific!

Go see your doctor. There are meds you can take that works wonders.

The most popular drug for an overwelmingly religious nation is the anti-depressent. Hmmmmm
yes,go to a bible believing church for help.

Romans 3:23,6:23,10
The Bible does not contain advice on how to deal with depression. You should go see a psychologist, instead of looking for answers in an ancient book written by people who thought the world was flat.
I suggest psychological/psychiatric help. Therapy and medicine will help you immensely.
1forgive

#2 praise the Lord and let the heaviness go

3# count your blessings

#4 realize your life is ahead of you
Go to the doctor and get some antidepressants. This would be my advice.
Therapy helped me a lot. Find a good therapist.
Read David's Psalms...

There is also a book called ';What You Say Is What You Get'; by Don Gossett that I would highly recommend to you. I have put a link to the book on Amazon below, so you can see a photo of it and know what to look for. This book teaches how we may choose God's blessings for ourselves by faith before we realize them, and that God's promises will not fail.

There is also merit to the comments about seeking some medical help. However, I would not recommend treating depression with drugs. There are two things you should look for especially when dealing with depression (from a medical point of view): 1) Vitamin or mineral deficiencies; and 2) toxicities. Many people improperly call these problems a ';chemical imbalance.'; However, you don't want any balance of toxins in your system, and supplying the lack in vitamins and other minerals also has more to do with proper nutrition than with an ';imbalance.'; Look for a doctor who recognizes the value of dietary supplements, and one who will do an HMA (hair mineral analysis) test to see your mineral levels. If you have toxins, look for one who can do chelation therapy to remove them.

Home remedies for depression:

1) Exercise. This is very important!

2) Sleep hours before midnight. Certain hormones necessary for proper metabolism and energy are produced during the hours of about 9-11 pm, but only when the lights are off and you are asleep. If you tend toward depression--get to bed early!

3) Focus on benefiting others. When you help other people, your own joy will increase.

4) Spend more time with God. He is the Master Healer, and suffered far more than any of us ever will. ';He knows our sorrows, and is acquainted with grief.'; (Isaiah 53) He wants you to be happy, and has a plan for your life.

May God bless you.
Go to a shrink and if need be take medication...
Look up Sloth..
i will pray for you.
I a Muslim, so I went to Wikipedia for a quick glance at the Deadly Sins. Take a look at the original meaning of Sloth:

';In fact it was first called the sin of sadness or despair. It had been in the early years of Christianity characterized by what modern writers would now describe as melancholy: apathy, depression, and joylessness — the last being viewed as being a refusal to enjoy the goodness of God and the world God created. Originally, its place was fulfilled by two other aspects, acedia and sadness. The former described a spiritual apathy that affected the faithful by discouraging them from their religious work.';

Do what you want with that.
Renee,

Unforgiveness can be a hidden culprit. It can make you a prisoner within yourself.

The Bible says “If you forgive men their trespasses, your Heavenly Father will forgive you. If you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Heavenly Father forgive your trespasses” (Matthew 6:14, 15, KJV).

That may seem harsh. But why shouldn’t God expect you to forgive those who have offended you, when He has forgiven you of so much?

Choosing to forgive is a choice of your will.

God says “Come unto Me, all you that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28, KJV) Isn’t rest what we long for when filled with the torture of an unforgiving spirit?

Are you harboring an unforgiving spirit? What’s preventing you from letting it go? Remember, your unwillingness to forgive is harming you far more than the person who has made you angry. Give it to God and ask Him to cleanse your heart and free you to experience His love and freedom.

Bless your heart, with my prayers...

Rev. Casi
I personally think being a Christian and seeking God's help is very wise. It may not cause your depression to go away but closeness to God, the Bible and walking in His way is definitely a help to overcoming the problems that are causing you to feel low. There were many people in the Bible who suffered from severe depression. Those who turned to God for help were usually helped but there were example who turned from his ways that were not. Words that come to mind are ';Rest on the Lord and wait patiently for him'; be kind to yourself and know that God loves you. Because a partner has rejected you that does not mean that God has or that others will. It takes time to develop a depressive illness and it may take a lot of time and work with the help of others to get back to your old cheerful self. Don't give up on God because He will never give up on you
Definitely go see doc.

My family has a genetic predisposition to depression. It hit one of my older sisters like the Israeli air force going after a terrorist rocket launcher. Wiped her out.

It took my Dad down too...only he refused to go see a shrink. He just prayed and prayed and prayed. He became hyper-religious. Lector at Church, member of the parish council, daily attendance at the 6AM mass before he went to work. It may have done some good...but mostly it got me really angry at God because this wasn't working. Of course it wasn't God's fault...he had given my Dad access to what he needed to get better... (psychologists and good health insurance) its just that my Dad was to damm stubborn to USE it. After about 20 years, and a miserable childhood, my Dad FINALLY had a nervous breakdown, did some inpatient care, and wound up being quite a pleasant fellow to be around. Of course by then I was out of the house and had more than a little bit of anger and frustration at the whole issue.

Bottom line, you don't need a ';Christian'; approach to your depression any more than you need a ';Christian'; (tm) approach to breast cancer, myopia, or hoof in mouth disease. A medical problem is a medical problem. Unless you have a shrink that tells you to go do something that is obviously sinful, (';Terri, I think you need to go stick up a bank. Do you a world of good'; ) just go see a doc and don't worry about it.

Christ came to Earth to found a Church, not a PPO.

Good luck and God bless
You know it might be a chemical thing. My sister is a Christian but she has a chemical imbalance and has been on anti depression medicine most of her adult life. Please go to a doctor and see if this can help you. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a Christian and needing medicine. God loves you and wants you to lead a whole, happy life.

Also, depression has been called ';anger turned inwards';. If you can learn to forgive, and if you can look outwards towards others, instead of inwards towards yourself, this can help you. And of course, immersing yourself in the word of God!
Paul wrote, ';Rejoice in the Lord, again I say rejoice!'; He wrote those words while in a Roman prison. I suffer from some issues with depression among other things myself. I have managed to keep mine under control without taking antidepressants. I've been down that road and it wasn't pretty for me. I do take some natural supplements. If you are interested in info on them, feel free to e-mail me.

Sometimes it feels like I have two angry squirrels fighting inside my head! It's hard to rejoice when you feel like your own life is going to hell, and everyone else around you is happy. But remember to take it one day at a time. This too shall pass. It wont be like this forever, THANK GOD!!
';Divorce'; can have the exact same mental %26amp; emotional impact as ';death';.... just knowing THAT, can help breath ';perspective'; into your life... you were prepared to spend your LIFE with someone and now they are gone forever.....

but you also need to keep perspective on the fact that maybe he was NOT the person God really meant for you.... sometimes we ';marry'; out of obligation, especially if there was ANY kind of ';sexual'; relationship involved... lay all of this before God and rest in the fact that He loves you dearly, and the person He REALLY has for you will be the exact match that will compliment who YOU are.....
Wow, girl. I know where you are at. And it will get better. I found some scriptures that really help me. I just repeat them over and over. I really don't want to tell you which scriptures because you will find the ones that are most meaningful for you. God wants you to enjoy life! Take it day by day, minute by minute. Put on your favorite outfit, do your make up and hair, go out somewhere and just be around people. Being alone is the worst thing right now. I think you are about to turn the corner. This is the year.

So some verses you might look at are below. I hope one of them gives you what you need.

Mark 4:19

Philippians 4:6-7

1 Peter 5:7

Psalm 34:15 17

Psalm 42:6 8 11
When we lose a spouse, through death, or other ways, it is a hard thing to deal with. Any one would be depressed, but, for a season.

There are several things that would, in my opinion, that would apply, scripturally speaking.

The Bible tells us not to forsake the assembling with other Christians, simply meaning: Go to church, there you will hear the word, get friends of your own, and your life will come together.

All good and perfect things come from God,

Renee, I really don't know your religious background, but, if it's in the Bible, we should believe it. Spirits are very real, and perhaps are contributing to your depression.

You mentioned depression as a child, which leads me to believe that there are deep rooted things causing your problem.

There is a book called, ';Pigs In The Parlor'; I suggest that you read it.
First of all far to often we treat feelings as reality which they are not. Just because I feel sick does not mean in a technical or medical sense I am. Over the years I have seen people based on a feeling talk themselves into being sick when it is a matter of faulty thinking. What can never be diminished is the warning signs feelings are. If you are not eating properly or getting enough sleep it may manifest itself in being tired and every other activity is done with a sense of lethargy. If we have been counting on someone to validate our worth and either through our perception or in reality they betray what we think should have happened we can become depressed. The bottom line in depression and anxiety is not about the external but the internal. The bible answers the question about our worth but far to often what the bible says is dismissed while a supposed change in our circumstances is embraced. Jesus said can worry add one day to your life? Don't get me wrong it is being dishonest to say we never worry but it is what we do when we are worried that matters. This is very evident with what has happened in the economy and many today are not only worried but live in a sense of fear. The very people who are so worried have never missed a meal or not had a roof over their heads. What are they afraid to lose. They fear loss of what they had use of on a temporary basis

This applies to human relationships as well. I like others have been disappointed by others and what they have said and done. There are times because of the actions or lack of actions of others we can feel so unloved or unwanted and as humans that cannot be avoided because we are not perfect. The gospel message is about gods sacrifice for us as imperfect as we are. Now people today like to reject God and that is the starting point for misery not joy. People like to throw out the need to see a psychiatrist or get on some medication and if there is a physical problem that may be necessary. What do they actually do? They try to teach you how to think right and to talk about your worries and fears. Yet the very profession that seeks to help you has one problem. The very thing they try to help you with they disproportianately suffer from. The facts are in the psychological community the suicide rate is hgher than the general population. Why? Even at their best they cannot give meaning and purpose to life. They can help people to move on but they cannot offer the freedom found in being forgiven. We are talking about the difference between a human solution and the solution God has offered through his son Jesus. The problem is that many gravitate to the human solutions and the result is that they will always be at the mercy of someone else or how thy feel. The gospel deals with who you are and it also deals with what the Lord is willing to do for those who trust him and believe him. You will always hace synics in here that hate god and yet they cannot offer you any solution other than drugs or pschychiatry. Yet the truth is nothing else will ever be right unless the first issue is being dealt with and that is the relationship God desires with all who are saved. Look outside if you must but the answers are not there. The answer ls in the Lord who created you to love him and share in love with you and no one on earth can even come close to that. Yet in that relationship you are able to live boldly and to even endure what appears to be painful for the Lords love and promises can never be diminshed.
The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way. Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down: for the LORD upholdeth him with his hand.

Psalm 37:23-24 (KJV)

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Trust in the LORD, and do good; so shalt thou dwell in the land, and verily thou shalt be fed. Delight thyself also in the LORD: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.

Psalm 37:3-4 (KJV)

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So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)

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So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)

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These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.

John 16:33 (KJV)

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Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.

Psalm 46:10 (KJV)

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To proclaim the acceptable year of the LORD, and the day of vengeance of our God; to comfort all that mourn; To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that he might be glorified.

Isaiah 61:2-3 (KJV)
There is no quick or easy way to deal with depression. Saying a prayer won't make it magically disappear. I have found that the church can be very judgemental when it comes to depression.

See your doctor. You may need to try different meds to see what works for you. It is a chemical imbalance. Once you deal with the imbalance, you can deal with the other issues.

The other issue is with your anger at your ex. You should confront your ex and tell him how he has hurt you. Frustration comes when you don't express your true feelings and allow other people to walk all over you. Its quite empowering when you finally speak your mind. Forgive him and move on.

Set some goals in your life and work towards them. Start off small. Write a list of all the things you want to do in life and of the things that make you happy. Try new things. Join a dating website. Meet new people. Things will eventually get better.

Good luck.
a christian will tell you to 'pray about it'. a rational person will tell you to get therapy and meds if you need them.

I need some advice...I am learning Biblical Hebrew and Greek in order to better know the Bible I need help?

It seems that not very many people care that I am spending sleepless hours trying to learn the original languages of the Bible. Why do people not apprecite a person that can accurate translate the original Hebrew and Greek and can distinguish between a good English version and junk? Why is it that I can tell someone that the way a particular passage in their favorite English version is not entirely accurate and explain the original meanings from the Hebrew and Greek...why is it that they don't want to believe me? Have Church goers gotten so comfortable that they would rather hear a slick talking preacher ';fanatacize'; the Bible and not listen to someone, like myself, accurate explain what it really means? Is there anybody else out there that understands the original Bible languages? Am I alone? Sometimes it feel like I am wasting my time. So I am asking you. Is it worth continuing to learn the original languages or should I just read the ';most popluar'; version and be content?I need some advice...I am learning Biblical Hebrew and Greek in order to better know the Bible I need help?
Stay with it, and learn as much Hebrew and Greek as you can. I had one semester of each in Bible college and still have fond memories of the instructors sharing some depths of truth we had never seen before. They actually glowed with the love of Jesus as they gave us these little ';nuggets'; from their own study. Professors Stevens and Marquardt, thank you and God bless you for sharing and giving us a desire to study, too!

You'll run into opposition from different sources. First, a lot of lay-people don't know the original languages, and frankly don't want to try. Either they're scared, or they've been burned, by somebody who ';showed'; how much more he or she knew than they did. You can remember the type, I'm sure. So that's one reason, perhaps fear or indifference?

Another is that some people feel that appeals to the original are adding to or taking away from God's word. In truth, some have done that, but in fairness, if the translation is wrong and the original is right, then what recourse do we really have? I believe the holders of this view are basically right, but just a little afraid of something, to their minds, that's new--even if it was the real deal to start with!

Finally, let me encourage you to stay with it, for a couple more reasons. One, some of the best commentaries are getting a little old, and all will eventually become out-of-print or worse, out -of-date. We're going to need people who can connect the golden riches of the original with an ever-changing language of the times in which you live. Take a look at Dr. A. T. Robertson's Word Pictures in the Greek New Testament. He gave some of the finest examples of analysis (or whatever the term is) I ever saw--but he's been dead for 70-plus years! Who's going to keep the fire going? Finally, we still need people who can translate the original into doctrinally sound, and easy to read, languages of today. Take a look at the folks who translated or helped in the New International Version project. Consider the 50 or so scholars of the King James Version ';team';. All of these were among the most intelligent of their day, and their work speaks for itself. Maybe you can be part of such a team, too. Who knows? But regardless, KEEP ON LEARNING as much as you can. God bless.I need some advice...I am learning Biblical Hebrew and Greek in order to better know the Bible I need help?
I understand what you are saying and I can empathize with you about learning the original languages. Many times people don't appreciate being told particular things are wrong. Many times in dealing with translations, it isn't that they are wrong, but maybe they don't use the best possible translation. Maybe you should present it in a way that brings that out. ';It could say this but maybe it says this...?';
';Why do people not appreciate...';? People want to believe that they are correct. People don't want to be told that what they think the bible says and what it really says are two different things.

Of course its worth continuing to learn, that way you will know the truth, just don't expect everyone around you to get excited over it. Its not a waste of time, it just feels that way sometimes. (a lot of times)
It is absolutely worth continuing to learn the languages so that YOU can understand them.

I read Koine (Biblical Greek), but not Biblical Hebrew and I can tell you that sometimes there are things that just cannot be translated adequately from Koine into English -- most of the time the message is obscured by translator bias
The Interlinear gives the original languages. But in this form the word for word translation is not necessarily readily understandable and much has to be interpreted. Therein lies the problem - how do you interpret to make it understandable to people in their current cultural context? Can be a big problem, and need a lot of explanation.
Odds are, you're never going to get proficient enough to achieve what you say you intend to accomplish.

And even if you could, it's highly unlikley that you would ever be able to get access to all the documents you need for your research.

Better to invest in a good concordance and interlinear and cut your losses.
Who are you pursuing all this learning for? Yourself? Or is it just to impress others and show them the errors of their ways? I don't know if it translates accurately or not, but isn't there something in there somewhere about removing the beam from your own eye, before extracting the mote from your brothers?
You will find that the most important parts are always the same: Jesus is Lord; he was crucified, he resurrected, and if you believe in him for who he claimed to be, you will go to heaven.
becuase even hebrew and greek scholars will not agree

whether the english version is 100% accurate or not....

i know of at least 2 hebrew scholars who would disgaree

with your assement of hebrew/greek to english translation.
Welcome to my world. I've been through 45 versions of the bible in seven languages. Keep learning, Jesus said knowledge is the key. Blessed be.
Why do some people think they must learn the bible so thoroughly? What is the point?

Be content.
yes indeed! who cares what other folk think..you stude for yourself..the bible says to study to show thyself approved unto GOD..let them approve themselves!!!! I study some of Hebrew and Greek myself..keep going!
some people are just jealous but let your haters be motivators and elevators
I hear ya but I know personally i don't need any more scolars to look at the sccripture and translate it ... it's bee poured over by thousands and thousands of hebrw scolars greekscholars and I would be amazed if you found some profound flaw in their work ... I would assume you would do this for your increased understanding of the text ... but it sound s like you want to have the respect of others for your fine and insightful wisdom ..It sounds like you need to check youer motivation ....Many christians are impressed by huge amounts of faith and standing in the fire with the wind in your face ....Being a scholar and really smart adds up to usually nothing except pride arrogance and ignorance ..... thats not to say that christians are ignorant .. they just never should be flaunting it ...
No, you're not wasting your time! Don't give up! I don't know the Hebrew and Greek language of the Bible but would love to, I just don't have time to learn a new language. Learning the original language is awesome, because you'll be able to interpret Scripture correctly. Find the most accurate version of the Bible and let me know, it drives me crazy why all the translations are totally different from eachother. I want the real deal.

EDIT: Really? So the people who told me the Nas was the real deal were correct then. Well I guess it's good that that's one I read out of the most.
Why not get Strongs exhaustive Concordance that list every word in the Old testament and the New testament.

It also has a hebrew and greek lexicon that gives a defition of all the words and their meaning.

If you want to learn the language from scratch that is up to you. I want to learn the real meaning of the words and what was said.

We are in the last days however. Many have let their love grow cold. They have itchy hears not wanting to hear the real truth. So they listen to preachers who will tell them what they want to hear not what they really need to hear the Truth of GOD.
Hundreds of scholars and academics have been working on the oldest texts that are available and have been doing so for many years. They can not deduce the actual meanings of the words, how is it that you claim such intelligence against the hundreds of others, scholars at best. Language and words change throughout the centuries. It is nearly impossible for the average lay person to understand the words. The scholars have a difficult time figuring out some of the words. Textural critics work hard to determine the meanings of the words. Most of the original texts are missing, lost or destroyed as well as the languages that they were originally written in. There are simply no originals of any of the texts or either the OT or NT. What remains are copies of originals, or better yet, copies of the copies of the copies from the originals from hundreds of years after the originals, and these are reproduced by hand which leaves much to be desired in the deciphering.
Hebrew the language of the old testiment and greek the new has been translated over and over thousands of times. it was translated into english for our use here. For most people its too difficult to learn the hebrew and greek meanings of these words so they rely on the translators to give them the best ';version';....thus so many different translations of the bible (kj, niv, etc).

I don't have the time to sit down and translate from old world language into english so i'll let someone else do it for me - who has more understanding of those languages...don't get me wrong - i applaude anyone who can read the old world language but its not easy to learn and translate....going thru seminaries these guys have to learn so much - and i wasn't called into the ministry so i will let those guys ';teach me'; since they are scholars of the book and i'm not

I need some advice...I am learning Biblical Hebrew and Greek in order to better know the Bible I need help?

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Why do some biblical counselors give different advice than others?

I have a Christian therapist who is also a psychologist. Some counselors try to balance the bible with therapy, but even Christians disagree with each other about the bible. I am confused about restoring a relationship with my ex husband because he is unstable. The therapist says I should try to do my part to take care of myself and let God deal with my ex but he is out of state doing who knows what. I Love him, but I don't want to live like this. I can't change him and I feel he takes advantage of people in general. He has bad character because I feel he is manipulative. He came back telling me he wanted to get back together and in some ways he has grown up, but he is bi-polar so who knows what to believe out of him. The counselor keeps pushing me to believe for restoration and says God can break my ex, but God doesn't over ride free will. I can't live this way . What should I do?Why do some biblical counselors give different advice than others?
When Christian counselors or any Christian asks God for answers, by His Holy Spirit, He answers. He gives us at least 2 witnesses and the answers are the same.

I've had God speak to me about situations and confirmation soon followed more than once in my life.

I believe its better to wait on God (through His Spirit) to show you what to do. He will, if you pray, then wait on Him for the answer. When you pray, end the prayer in Jesus name as Jesus told us to do before He went back to be with the Father.

He will give you the answer in different ways: a scripture, something a true Christian friend will say, Christian TV Person, dream or even an audible voice or a ';knowing in your spirit';. You will get at least 2 witnesses to the answer, which means it will be confirmed at least twice. Matthew 18:16 and elsewhere in the Bible tells us things are confirmed by 2 or 3 witnesses.

Needing Marriage Advice from a Biblical Perspective.....?

What can I do if I'm a Christian and my husband isn't? Neither one of us were when we met and had kids, but shortly after that I became a Christian. It didn't happen overnight. It was a process of small changes and learning to turn from my old behavior over about 5 years. I've tried to be a positive example, I don't nag him about going to church, my kids and I are constantly praying for him, but there never seems to be any change. We have nothing in common anymore and I'm becoming miserable. Even my children don't understand his behavior somtimes and are hurt by it. He has become a stumbling block for myself and a times a bad influence on the kids. I don't know what to do anymore and I seriously need some advice. Please help if you can.Needing Marriage Advice from a Biblical Perspective.....?
Your children will be exposed to him rather you are married or not. At least when you are with him you can oversee to a better degree of what they are being exposed to. It could be a nightmare if you weren't there. Prayer is my best advice and keep filled with the Spirit of the Lord...you will need super natural strength to undure....unless there is abuse of course. Then I would say you have no choice but to leave...you wouldn't want the children to get the message that abuse is okay. I pray the Lord will turn his heart through the love and affection of you and your children. Best wishes.Needing Marriage Advice from a Biblical Perspective.....?
There is nothing you really can do. Your happy being a Christian woman and you shouldn't change you and your children happiness for the world . All you can do is pray for him like you been doing and hope for the best but you also have to tell him that his behavior is hurting the kids and that he does have to change him but some of his negative behaviors if he's a real man he'll change his ways for your children. best of luck!
Just because you are an devoted christian doesn't mean your husband has to be. Overlook that he believes differently than you. Its not that difficult. My mom is a catholic and my dad was protestant. I know that they are both christians, but my dad doesn't go to church, receive communion or anything like that, my parents keep their religion out of their relationship.
you can try to talk to him about it or you could just leave. it is never a good idea to be with someone who doesn't share the same religion. if he has bad behavior then that's something you shouldn't want around your children. you shouldn't want them to learn to act that way.
Keep praying to God for his salvation. You do your part, be a good wife and mom. Go to church and ask your sis %26amp; bros there to also pray for you. God will work in His own perfect timing.
If you were not a Christian and you husband was would you feel the same way? Is your husband a bad person just because he cant blindly follow you.
Be strong in your belief. Keep on trying to get him to go to church and talking ot him about it. Be strong and good luck!!
That is the sound of the DEVIL!!!!
Have you tried talking to him? Maybe he doesn't know the affect he is having on you and your children. I'm sure, if he truly cares for you and your family, he will listen and try to be a better influence. He doesn't have to necessarily become a christian, but rather not rub off his ways on the children. Maybe being a better person not for himself but for his family will help him change for the better.

The problem is, a religion is a way of living. That is why it is probably very difficult to get along with your husband like you used to because ya'll live your lives in different ways. But I'm sure somewhere inside of each of you are other reasons why ya'll got married. Try some date nights where you can rekindle the relationship.

All in all, don't lose faith! Keep praying and God will eventually help show you what to do!!
Eeeesh. You realize that YOU'RE the one who's changed, not him, right? This isn't his fault, and it's not his problem. It's yours.

Really, it's a shame that you've decided to adopt a belief system that forces you (and your poor kids!) to look at your husband as a stumbling block.

So, what's more important to you; your marriage and your family, or following your religion to the destruction of them both.

P.S. Please consider that you can change your old ways and become a better person without whatever brand of Christianity you've adopted. And it doesn't have to destroy your marriage, either!
I think i will know what you are going through in the future.

I'm a Wiccan in practice and my BF (soon to be husband) is an athiest.

I bet we'll have this prob...It's hard enough to get guys to do anything after marriage. My aunt's been asking her husband to fix their roof for 3 years now and he still hasn't done it, yet she reminds him every day.

I suggest you seek out a marriage counsler.
Divorce him. But first get a video with out him knowing of him setting a bad example for the kids. That way you can get custody of the kids.

-Mel
you should dumP him Cauz hes not a cristian and and non christians got 2 hell!!!!!
divorce and try to get custody for the kids

Biblical passages and advice for interview?

I have an interview soon and I am so nervous. Does anyone know of any bible passages that I can read beforehand to calm down my nerves or words of wisdom that they can share with me. It's not my first interview but because I have been unemployed for a couple of months and legal jobs are not easy to come across I'm really nervous. I've come so far with my degree and although this position isnt within a law firm, so there probably wouldnt be any room for progression it would give me the opportunity to use my degree.

Can I also ask for tips on what you think that I should say if they ask me why have I chosen to apply for a position with them instead of with a firm that will offer me the ability to train with them. My main reason for applying is because jobs are difficult to find these days and this job will allow me to use the skills that I gained with my law degree as well as apply to be a solicitor at the same time on the side, but obviously I cant tell them that because if I dont get the chance to become a solicitor I will stay with them.

Please do not respond with something unrelated or insensitive. If you have something silly to say, then please respect my wishes and write somewhere else. Any useful tips will be greatly appreciated. Thank you!Biblical passages and advice for interview?
Philippians 4:6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. 8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy--meditate on these things.

Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose. 29 For whom He foreknew, He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son, that He might be the firstborn among many brethren. 30 Moreover whom He predestined, these He also called; whom He called, these He also justified; and whom He justified, these He also glorified. 31 What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? 32 He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him up for us all, how shall He not with Him also freely give us all things?

Psalms 5:11 But let all those rejoice who put their trust in You; Let them ever shout for joy, because You defend them; Let those also who love Your name Be joyful in You. 12 For You, O LORD, will bless the righteous; With favor You will surround him as with a shield.

Matthew 6:30 Now if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is, and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will He not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31 ';Therefore do not worry, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' 32 For after all these things the Gentiles seek. For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. 33 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.

In regards to what to say on the job interview, remember to be honest yet diplomatic. You don't have to say a whole lot to answer the questions that you might be asked. You don't have to give them a whole long story. You can say that you need a job and that your primary goal is to obtain gainful employment. They know that jobs are scarce. You can get training just by working in a legal environment. You won't get any training by remaining unemployed.Biblical passages and advice for interview?
Isaiah 41:10,13
Research and know the organization well before going in. Once there, show the interviewer why s/he would be a fool not to hire you!

Good luck and God bless! Knock 'em dead!

Mat 6:27 Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature?

Mat 6:34 Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day [is] the evil thereof.
Here are some that are especially encouraging when against the odds. You're positioned correctly for a favorable outcome by continuing to trust the Spirit's leading; meditating on His Word.

Also just be prepared to answer as you explained but leave off the ';as well as'; part. 'As a dream comes when there are many cares, so the speech of a fool when there are many words.' Ecc 5:3

Jos 1:7 Be strong and very courageous. Be careful to obey all the law my servant Moses gave you; do not turn from it to the right or to the left, that you may be successful wherever you go.

Isa 40:31 but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.

Rom 8:1 Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus

Rom 8:35-37 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? As it is written: ';For your sake we face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.'; No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.

Jos 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.';
Psalm 23 (and of course those passages that the other answers include).

And try to find out as much about that Job you want beforehand, so when you are being asked questions, you are able to answer them.

So, if you find out something that sounds interesting, try to mention it(that way it seems like you are very interested in that job and already have knowledge about it.)

And, of course, smile and try to win them over with your positivity!

:-)

You might also want to mention that you are willing to work hard, willing to learn as much as you can, say that you are focused and enthusiastic! :-)

And, of course, dress properly!

:-)

good luck!

Can someone advice me on where can I take an on line course in biblical studies with reasonable tuition fee?

I know of a place; you can have a free home Bible study.

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Also, FREE ;~)

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YEAH JEHOVAH!Can someone advice me on where can I take an on line course in biblical studies with reasonable tuition fee?
Yes, show up at your local Kingdom Hall of Jehovah's Witnesses and they have upper level college classes three times a week. You can bring your own Bible and even answer or ask any question you might have on different doctrines. You will see the schedules on the front of the building next to the front door. All meetings are public meetings. You can also request any kind of literature you want and all of this is free.

From any type of Bible, aids, dictionary's,

complete library's and CD Roms.

Sincerely yours,

Fred M. Hunter

Preston Ct.

Was it me? was i wrong to think that way? biblical advice welcome.?

ok so we just moved to NY and i have alot of family up here.the summer before we moved up here i was able to spend a good amount of time with my best friend/cousin.well now that we've moved up here and school has started and all i NEVER get to see her except at church.but there ALWAYS the first family out the door.i mean i've made other friends but i have this weird connection that i have with her unlike any of my other friends.but i dont know if she has it with me or any connection at all.was i wrong to think that we were gonna be best buds and always hang out together? what should i do?Was it me? was i wrong to think that way? biblical advice welcome.?
Your cousin might just be busy with school (I know I am) She is probably feeling the same way, and it isn't your fault. I blame the schools...

Good Luck!Was it me? was i wrong to think that way? biblical advice welcome.?
call her up and see if u can hang out some time. also invite her to church/youth group activities and spend time together and talk

I have overly strict and forceful parents, Biblical advice?

My parents are very strict. I am not allowed to listen to any music other than classical and ';traditional'; Christian. I am not allowed to be out with girls unless a parent present, and swimming is strictly forbidden, I am also only allowed to see friends about two times a month, because anything beyond that is termed as ';living'; with them.

I have learned to deal with all of that, but recently my mother has informed me I will be required to attend a Christian college the first year of college, but they will only pay for part of it. This will result in about $4000 spent on my part. Another issue is the college doesn't offer my major, and none of the credits will transfer. This will be not only a waste of money but also a waste of an entire year of my life. I feel that at 17 years old I should be able to start developing my own beliefs and positions.

My mother is a old-time Christian in the extreme, and she expects me to be the same; while I am a Christian, I have many beliefs that are different from hers. Am I right? Should I be able to exercise my own beliefs? Should I be able to make some decisions on my own? And how should I handle the situation of my college education?I have overly strict and forceful parents, Biblical advice?
The more they are your parents the more you are to be kind to them.

Once you are on your own then you do whatever it is that you like with their good teachings with you.

If they lead you astray from God, then chose a new guardian.

Parents are parents and if they pay your way then its not your voice that is needed to be heard.

The more strict your parents are the worse you will become once they are not around. This error is spawned from fear and lack of control on their part so they over control you.I have overly strict and forceful parents, Biblical advice?
I think it's fair to tell them that if you are going to have to shell out the money for your college, you should get to decide which college you want to go to, especially if this one they want you to go to doesn't offer your major.

Once you are 18 they can't tell you what to do. They can cut off financial support, but there have been students who have gone to college on their own student loans and grants. Look into those.

Best of luck
If you're going to be paying for this education, I think it's time you left these people's roofs.

They can make you go to the school of their choice OR they can make you pay for it. They're being abusive.

Of course, that means getting a job and an appartment.

Lots of people have done it before. I think it's time you did as well.

Just remember if there's a will there's a way.
wow I thought my mom was over protective! I don't know what to tell you; you should be able to make your own decisions but at the same time the Bible says we should respect our parents.

The only advice I can give is pray about it; maybe God will change your mother's heart or if not he will make something good out of your year at Christian college
Your mother clearly loves God, the Bible, and Religion more than her own flesh and blood.

I don't know what to tell you. The best thing in my opinion seems to be man up and put up with it and don't do it to others.

I feel for you but man that's a tough situation. Good luck!
guess what mom I'm18 and I'm a big girl now and can make my own decisions. So you have 1 year left so show respect and honor your parents and wait till you can move out. oh don't blame god for the way your mom is acting.maybe you could throw your burdens on god and see how he helps you.
Your mom and dad are hypocrites. How were you created? That's right, by doing the nasty. Only virgins are entitled to be so pious. Tell your parents this the next time they give you any grief.
I think your college situation sucks, but you should respect your parents' wishes. I'm sure they love you. They've cared for you all this time. Just pray and I hope God will see you through this on good terms with your folks.
If you are for real...get the hell out and never turn back, or you will turn into a pillar of wasted life. Life is better than that.
Your mother clearly loves God, the Bible, and Religion more than her own flesh and blood. Your parents do NOT deserve you. At all.
I will pray for you that God gives you Wisdom.
She can't force you to attend a christian college.
You clearly are almost an adult. Move out now while you know everything. Get a job, pay all your own bills, car payments, gas, groceries, rent and all of your college tuition and books.

How mean of your parents to expect you to follow their rules. After all just because it is their home shouldn't mean you have to have any restrictions.

As a parent I can't believe they are trying to teach you how to become a decent, responsible person, after all it is your life they are messing with.

Waste a year of your life going to a Christian College. How dare they give you an opportunity to be in a Christian environment while you adjust to being away from home. After all you might want to marry a tramp and have no need to meet young women who have been raised in a Christian home.

Now for the Biblical advice:

Ephesians 6:1

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.

Colossians 3:20

Children, obey [your] parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.
tell your parents all this. that you're 17 and God stresses the point of us making our own choices. you sound like a good kid so tell your parents that you're old enough and smart enough to make your own choices. tell them you have your own beliefs and we live one life and that you'd like a chance to live your one life the way you want to. before you talk to them, write out all that you want to do for your education and where you wanna go for college and why. then you'll have everything planned out and your point of view will probably win them over.
First of all, don't talk back to your parents because according to the bible that is a crime that should be punished by death.

(I am being humorous, of course).

Anyway, this is messed up beyond anything. This is NOT right, and it sounds like your parents are definitely not capable of making good decisions, especially for their child. While the rules about friends and swimming are bad enough, the college thing is terrible.

Once you turn 18, your parents really don't have any control over you. If you don't want to go to a Christian college, you don't have to and they have no bearing on this. Are your parents paying for the rest of your college? If so, then you are still dependent on them and will want to keep them on your good side.

If you are paying for college by yourself, then go to whatever college you want to. Your parents can't make you do anything. I'm assuming you will be 18 by the time you start college, so if you have the money, make your own decisions.

You are past the point when your parents need to tell you what to do.

And frankly, it sounds like you have been past that point for a long time.
Pentecostal??? ';Only allowed to see friends about two times a month=living with them??!!! Very odd.

You are 17, either bide your time until you are 18 or get out now, get a job and work hard and get into a school that you choose. Your parents are going to hinder your life to such a degree that your dreams and aspirations will not be realized.

Yes you have every right to exercise your own beliefs. You can love your parents from a distance. Don't let them ruin your life.
You are 17 years old. Next year you will be classed as an adult; are your parents going to rule you for the rest of your life? I'm sure your parents want what they think is best for you but I think at 17 you are old enough and have enough experience to decide what you want in your own life... Do you even want to go to this college?

It sounds like your parents are unrealistically uptight. In this day and age it is possible to be modern AND a Christian, do they realise this? As for not being able to spend time with your friends, it seems to me that your mother wants you to be as uptight and closed-minded as she is, with no life and no friends.

I see this going two ways:

1. You can tell your parents that you are an adult and that this is what you want to do with your life and that in order to do that you need to do this, this %26amp; this (ie. go to particular college to get degree or whatever in your choice of field, spend time out with friends like a normal teen, etc)

or 2. You can follow your parents rules, go to the college they want you to go to, save hard to pay for it, live like a hermit then when you are old enough and become more independent you can move out and go to college to do what you want to do.

The latter of course would mean that you have wasted precious time and money, but will keep your parents happy for a while.

Phew! You poor girl!
The Bible says you must honor your parents, but that does not mean your beliefs have to be the same as theirs. Your parents have been given to you for a reason, you just might not have discovered what it is yet. Try to talk to them and explain that while you love them and want to honor their wishes, you are an individual with your own wants needs and desires. Once you are eighteen, you are legally an adult and can do what you wish with your life, so the college situation is basically your choice. Pray about it, ask God to show you what is the right thing to do. If you need any further help, feel free to email me anytime for anything.

Good luck, I hope things go well.

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Christians: Do you always give biblical advice even if the person is not a believer?

Or do you compromise?

For further clarification: When you get in casual conversation with someone you don't know well and they tell you something they did which is sinful and they feel a little bad....do you take those opportunity to point out sin and bring up repentance and the gospel?Christians: Do you always give biblical advice even if the person is not a believer?
I pray first most the time if God gives me an opening or leads me to I do. I do not usually point at a non believer and tell them your a sinner repent because what ever I say after that will fall on deaf ears. If it is a person I know is a believer I will point out their sin. If not it depends on what the better way to lead them to Christ would be. Sometimes people are lead by realizing they are wrong. Sometimes people know they are wrong and are lead because you showed them love and compassion.

You already knew my answer though lolChristians: Do you always give biblical advice even if the person is not a believer?
I don't compromise but I don't give Biblical advice unless asked.

I do, following the leading of the Holy Spirit, use those as opportunities to share the Gospel. Hopefully I do it in a way that is not perceived as cramming something down the other person's throat.

When people ask, ';What should I do';, the advice I give them comes from the Bible, since the Bible has more wisdom than I do. Someone does not have ask me specifically for ';What does that Bible say';, for me to tell them what the Bible says.
If they feel bad I don't need to point out anything and if they don't what's the point.

I have many close relationships with people who are either not of the same faith or pick and choose on certain areas. No matter, when they talk to me about it, I always try to be compassionate and honest about their particular situation. But at the same time, I look through a lens that is, well, Christian. I can't help it. It's like asking someone from Compton to give directions to someone from Martha's Vineyard.

The understanding needs to be mutual.
No I don't usually ever give biblical advice unless the question calls for it. I give my honest advice which may sometimes be my opinion as well even in religious matters, as long as I know I am correct. If I have any doubt I check it with the Catechism of the Catholic Church, the Douay Rheims bible or the Catholic Encyclopedia. I use those resources only for religious questions, all others get my honest advice from experience or my opinion on the matter.
Yes because according to my faith we are taught to spread the word of God.

I might start preaching the gospel or depending on what kind of thing your talking about.

I had a person say the felt bad because they started smoking because they where bored all the time and stressed from it.

I was like well do things you enjoy go for a walk, ride a bike, read hobbies, sports anything to get your mind off of stress and on something else.
I will answer them in love, will I tell them the are a sinful person probably not (depending on the person) That is not how to show people love to throw their sins in there face. The only people we should point out the truth to is fellow Christians. We are only called to judge their sins. And that is mainly for accountability. See Galatians 6:1
Oh YES I give Biblical advice.. is there any other kind when one is a believer? When someone whines to me about some trouble or other which THEY HAVE CAUSED by their bad behaviour, YES I will advise them that perhaps if they stopped that behaviour- they could clear up their woes.

I do NOT push Bible on them nor judgement. I can only point out something that ought to change, and it is God who does any convicting.
No, I don't.

It's not my place to judge them. I was once a non-believer. In fact, a hateful Atheist. And I was saved. So, never say never. Having said that, the truth of my life, what I do and how I live is my testimony. We have a duty to live as closely to what Jesus wants of us as possible. It is not our jobs to save. That's Jesus job. I am only here to plant the seeds. Do not be deceived by your good intentions. They can derail you just as quickly as any other sin out there. And you wouldn't even realize it.
This is hard to answer because none of the non-believers I know would refer to their behavior as sinful.

But I wouldn't use religion to engage with that kind of discussion with a non-believer unless they specifically asked me my religious perspective on the issue.
I believe it is so important to be filled with and led by the Holy Spirit, in a case like you bring up it could be the Spirit leading to repentance and salvation
sometimes, sometimes not. It depends on the situation. Never pry into peoples business because you dont always know whats going on. You may be a Christian but all Christians sin too, were not perfect.
Only if they specifically ask for Biblical advice. I do not feel it is my duty to ram it down every body's throat just because they chose to talk to me.
I do but I don't force it down their throats either. Sometimes being pushy drives them further away. I ask them if they want my opinion first before I tell them
Not always, if the spirit dictates and the time and place and conditions are right.
I share what works for me. Obeying God always brings positive results in my life, physically and spiritually.
I give biblical advise on the love of God and belief that Jesus Christ is our saviour. I have not met anyone who said they didn't believe in Him either. Just blessed I guess.
i give advice based on biblical teachings. but i dont always quote the bible.
Sure, I always give advice based on the Bible.
THE BIBLE IS FULL OF GREAT ADVICE THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BELIEF IN GOD.
yes, because they love you
If you pay close attention to the bible, it is all a personal experience story based on many peoples' experience. If you have experienced one of the truths in the bible, it would probably be better to just talk about a personal experience. Wisdom is experience. Use it as such. People are able to speak to someone alot better when it's not you telling them they are wrong or right, but by illuminating both sides, they are able to make the decision themselves and it is often the right one.

Look into your own life, before you start casting judgement on others.

Lol, if you think that is judgement you are mistaken, it is simply insight a truth. Would it have been better if I quoted it as a bible verse?

Luke 6:42

';Or how can you say to your brother, 'Brother, let me take out the speck that is in your eye,' when you yourself do not see the log that is in your own eye?

Can someone give me some biblical advice on how to keep pressing on with abusive husband.?

My husband is not physically abusive anymore but he is extremely jealous , verbally and mentally abusive. He checks the phone and computer behind me, accuses me of looking at other men on tv, magazines and real life. it is getting to much for me now. I have been praying but I am not happy, he criticizes and accuses me EVERYDAY.I go to bed unhappy everynight and in the morning he acts like nothing happens, he doesn't apologize when he finds out he is wrong about things. He calls me names in front of kids.he says in the morning, its a new day, so I'm not suppose to be upset about previous day but he eventually finds something to say or accuse about later in the day.What do I do? It is a new year and I'm expecting to be happy this year. I'm stressed to the max.I try to be peaceful but inside I am hurting inside.I pray for change and god gives me peace in my heart then here comes my husband, arguing or saying something negative.I have never THOUGHT about cheating, leaving yes, but no other man.Can someone give me some biblical advice on how to keep pressing on with abusive husband.?
Have you ever heard that ';God helps those who help themselves';? It's not enough to pray for change, you must WORK for change, and there comes a point where you must INSTIGATE change.

Divorce is never a good thing, but compared with living with abuse like you're talking about, it can be the best alternative. Do you think God wants you to suffer forever? Why would Jesus have worked the Atonement, if you are not meant to have the opportunity to be happy and live a good life?

You know, there's a great story about a man who was warned that he was in danger of being in a flood. He prayed to God to help, and after a little while, there was an emergency notification on the radio for everyone in his area, to evacuate....but he remained, saying he trusted in God to save him.

As the water around him rose, he prayed again.

And after a little while, along came a man in a boat, who offered to take him to safety. But he shook his head -- ';Nope, i'm trusting in God,'; he said, and remained.

A little while later, a helicopter flew by and a man shouted out, ';Come on, you're going to drown if you don't come with me!';

But the man shook his head again, and said, ';I'm trusting God to save me!'; and he let the helicopter go by.

Soon the man drowned in the flood, and when he found himself standing before God, he asked, ';Why didn't you help me-- I trusted in You to save me!';

And God replied, ';I sent you a radio announcement, a man with a boat, and a helicopter -- but you refused all of them; what were you expecting, anyway???';

This story has a good moral to it: USE THE BRAIN GOD GAVE YOU, take advantage of the opportunities (or learn what they are) to solve your problem!

Good luck --

~GaiaCan someone give me some biblical advice on how to keep pressing on with abusive husband.?
How can you have a successful marriage when you don't even trust each other? Aside from what all the abuse and mistrust does to you - what is it doing to the kids?! If your husband can't work out his issues, and if your are not happy in your marriage, you need to do what is best for you and the kids and get out of the marriage.
The first 13 years of my life were spent at the mercy of an abusive alcoholic step father. It took me years to undo the damage caused and I still have nightmares at the age of 30. Get out, if not for yourself then for your children. Get help. Do not make the same mistake my mother did. I've been down that road, there is nothing good there.
You need more advice that can be given here on this forum.

I would advise you to read some Christian books that are based on the Bible.

Gary Chapman is a marriage counsellor who has written several Biblically based books on marriage and how to make it work.

The two that I can think of right now are.

';Covenant Marriage'; and ';The five languages of love.';
bablical advice. (ok somewhere i forgot which chapter it said but it states ''what God has put together no man or no one shall put apart) soo really the vowels and stuff agreeing to them

but i dont know l0l in reality but your husband is really bizarre talk to someone about it before i gets to late ...talk to your husband or leave him for a week and see how he gets on

hope it helps !
Find a Woman's' shelter in your area and take your kids and get out. He is mentally ill, period. He is abusing your children by abusing you and nothing will change until he gets help. He probably wont see a problem with his attitude but I can assure you,it will only get worse.
You need to get out, and get out NOW!

you should not be looking for a reason or advice to stay in this relationship.

Get your kids and get out.

It says in the bible a man can sell his daughter into slavery, you're going to listen to something that allows this type of behavior? Not even in Los Vegus ca you do that!

get out. Please
You guys need some counseling although he'll probably disagree, but either way, you should tap into whatever local resources are available and speak with someone qualified to help.

Even if he refuses to go, you should still make the effort and follow the advice they will give you. You are not alone in this situation, there are so many others in similar circumstances. Do a search and contact them sooner rather than later.

I do wish you well.....
Leave! you know its only going to escalate again, he's just looking for a reason to hit you. and your kids see this. Do you want your daughters to marry abusive husbands? do you want your sons to become abusive husbands? You must show them that this kind of attitude towards woman must not be tolerated. Get out, or stand up to him. preferably with a cast Iron frying pan. or a gun
protect yourself and the children...a toxic relationship is harmful to everyone....until he can get himself straightened out I would get out....

he is angry at the world or himself for something and needs to deal with it by himself...
Here is some non-biblical advice.

Leave the twat!

Psychologocal abuse is a form of domestic violence.
Ask your church for some help. Perhaps they have counseling services.

Just because you are religious doesn't mean you have to put up with being abused. Your kids certainly deserve better than that.
Leave. Now. Take your kids and get the f*** out. Change your phone number and never, ever contact him again.
Regardless of your religion, I think you should leave him.
Drop the jerk. I'll take you.
Your children will grow up to treat you the way your husband treats you... so you decide.
LEAVE. Take your kids, and LEAVE. Screw the bastard.
Come to my place. :D
My wife persevered and now we are one. She coped through prayer and many a tearful night. You can only live a life approved of God and pray for your husband. I hate to tell you this but you are not guaranteed a happy life only a safe landing.

You have two options. Continue on and keep up the prayer and fasting for your husband and children. Second you can separate and take the kids with you. I would avoid divorce but that can take place as well but as you said not to re-marry. This way you allow God room to work in both of your lives and opportunity to renew each other should he return to God.
Read Proverbs 31 continue praying ask God to help you to be the best wife that you can be ask him to reveal why your husband is jealous and how you can help the marriage to be a marriage of him and his word. Are you and your husband equally yoke? (Both of you believe in God). Have you sat down with your husband and asked him why he feels jealous? Generally people don't go into a relationship jealous it is something that has happened within the relationship that causes jealousy. When it comes to the computer, tv or magazines ask him to sit with you so he can be a part of your life. Ask your husband how he feels that you can be a better wife. Also read James 1:2-4.
You are in serious physical danger. Your children are learning to immitate your husband and yourself.

You are describing the classic ';grooming'; period of an abusive spouse. This will escalate. It may take years, but it will. Meanwhile you will be turned into a defensive mush that has no way left to leave. Your girl children will learn to be easy targets. Your boy children will learn to abuse. For THEM you owe it to yourself to call a battered women's shelter %26amp; start laying out a plan to leave. Don't confront your husband. Do the planning first. Talk to your doctor, the police, and any hotlines you can find. THEY can help from a religious perspective too.

You're lucky, you spotting this early on, but your in big risk trouble.

As for verses, it's clear that a husband is supposed to act loving towards a wife, be a partner. Marriage is about a union that supports each other %26amp; gives you strength to care for children. This isn't that.

Please, please, take care of yourself. TODAY. Right NOW, make the call. Call the police if you need to get the shelter's number.
Is your husband saved? If so, then he is simply immature and there hope that God will speak to him. If not, then the Bible says, ';God has called you to peace.'; (1st Corinthians 7:15). That means divorce is sometimes ok in God's eyes. But the next verse says, ';How do you know, O wife, if you will not save your husband?'; This means that the wife's faith in Christ, and her behavior can lead to her husband being saved. There is great power in turning the other cheek, and in forgiveness. Abusive people abuse others for many complex reasons. The bottom line, is they feel hurt and let down by someone. Insecurity and resentment builds and the Devil plays upon these feelings. They take it out on the most gentle and innocent victim, in so doing, re-enacting the abuse that was done to them.

Always be led by the Holy Spirit, who will give you a sense of ';peace which passes all understanding.'; This peace means God has a plan if you can hold out.

Remember, there is a time, even as a Christian, for real honesty. It needs to come at the right time in order to be received. Cry out to God first for the right words to say, then if God gives the opportunity, speak your heart, but watch the choice of words. Let your words be of ';grace, sprinkled with salt.'; The salt will burn strong enough.

Growing in faith, is only possible through testing. Allow this pain to cause you to know ';the fellowship of his sufferings.'; (Philippians 3:10)

Yours in Christ, Nick
Perhaps you could point out that your children are supposed to 'honor their mother and father', but since he is insulting you in front of your kids, they are going to have trouble having respect for their parents.

My non-biblical advice would be for you to seek counseling. Other people are telling you to dump the guy, which is a good idea, but I think you should give your marriage a chance before you end it. Even a religious marriage counselor would be able to help you and your husband. You could go by yourself and learn how to deal with your husband's abuse, or the two of you could go and your husband would learn how to express himself without being abusive.

Giz
for the bible to provide u advice...the stuff its toking about has to exist first.. n i dun tink god or jesus is going to pop outta the bible to help u..sorry tis might be disrespectful oof ur religion but i reli think u shld be taking control of tis situation..help urself no book is going to help u unless they r self help books ultimately u have to make a decision..if ur children r old enuff to understand n handle a seperation den go for it sounds like ur husband is a real @$%^%26amp;
Biblical advice? From a book that regards women as property?

Take the kids and leave. Emotional abuse has the same effect as physical. Prayer won't help you or change him. Nothing will change him short of brain damage. Action will change your situation. GET OUT.
What should you do, how should you cope? That is something you need to address carefully and prayerfully. Try to be in close relationship with other ladies...Maybe there's someone at church you can talk with about what is going on, or neighbors, or relatives...even people at the grocery store. As much as you are able, surround yourself with support. He sounds very controlling.

Sometimes in situations like this, we begin to feel as if we are going crazy and begin to doubt our own sanity. We feel like we are making it up. If you can, document what is going on. Especially if he becomes physically violent.

There is someone very close to me who left her husband because he was abusive. She left with her young children and started a new life for herself. She was so afraid that God would be angry with her because of her choice. But God is a loving God. He loved her so much that He died for her. I think He was hurting along with her through all the years that she was abused and that He rejoiced in her freedom.

Here is an article on a Biblical approach to emotional abuse--

http://silverreflection.tripod.com/speak…

When I googled ';Biblical perspective abuse'; a bunch of good articles came up. I'm sure you'd find a ton.

Hope this helps.

All the best to you, whatever you decide.

(((Hugs)))
No biblical advice as I am an Atheist but common sense advice yes...Get out of there. He will not change and your life will just be miserable.

I have several friends who are now divorced. They tried marital guidance and mediation but it came to nothing. All their men remained ignorant, arrogant, violent and abusive even blaming their partners for making them act that way. One of my friends was dragged across the floor by her hair and yet he still claimed it was her fault. Another got the sullen, silent treatment for days if she put something in the wrong cupboard or didn't cook the meal he wanted.

The best of all was my friend who was told she had to watch her husband having sex with someone else in their own house and then have sex with him and her afterwards.

Some men are just not good husband material. Go find yourself a better one!
F*ck him, take the kids, clean out all your bank accounts, and leave him forever. Don't look back, just leave him.

(when I say fu*k him, I don't mean literally, I mean metaphorically)

He's a loser, you deserve to be happy, and so do your Kids. Nearly 40 years ago, I was one of those kids, and to this day, I thank the memory of my Mother for getting out of such a relationship, and I haven't seen or heard from my abusive Father since.

DO IT!
talk to your pastor or couselor or try to get him to see a marriage couselor with you

Should christians take this biblical advice?

If only you would be altogether silent! For you, that would be wisdom.

Job 13:5

Should christians take this biblical advice?
lolShould christians take this biblical advice?
Yes. if u are talking against God, then being silent would be wisdom. Job's friends were saying things that were wrong about God, so Job rebuked them and told them to keep quiet.

read the verses after that.

5 鈥淥 that you would be completely silent,

And that it would become your wisdom!

6 鈥淧lease hear my argument

And listen to the contentions of my lips.

7 鈥淲ill you speak what is unjust for God,

And speak what is deceitful for Him?

8 鈥淲ill you show partiality for Him?

Will you contend for God?

9 鈥淲ill it be well when He examines you?

Or will you deceive Him as one deceives a man?

10 鈥淗e will surely reprove you

If you secretly show partiality.

11 鈥淲ill not His majesty terrify you,

And the dread of Him fall on you?

12 鈥淵our memorable sayings are proverbs of ashes,

Your defenses are defenses of clay.

Try and understand it and dont waste ur time trying to find fault with it. it is the Word of God and is more upto date than tomorrow's newspaper. you can find answers to all ur questions in it if u wish to find it.

God bless you.
If you read that ';advice'; in proper context, you will find that Job's friends were making ridiculous remarks. But since you claim no belief in the Bible what does it matter to you?
Job was talking to his not so helpful friends. They accused him of doing sinful things and accused him of being self-righteous.

They did not know that God was allowing satan to test Job. .
Yes, because, if everyone was to be silent, they can enjoy listening to another person (altogether)
Classic choad-like behaviour...Job, taken out of context...you seem to be screaming for an education.
Job was talking too much and not listening. It just shows you, we ought to shut up and listen to God more often.
That is pulled entirely out of context, I have never seen a better example than this.
Every one should only take the buy-bull tongue in cheek.
I also like the bit about praying in private. That would be good advice for them too.
Yes sometimes saying nothing is the best thing to do. If I only could take my own advice.
That's taken out of context. Job is addressing his critics and people who contend God's will.
( Translation )

GOD'S WORD

I wish you would keep silent. For you, that would be wisdom.
I think that bit of wisdom was meant for you.

Don't you have homework that you should be doing?
Not just Christians.....
Just because you may not want to hear what we have to say. That does not mean that we have to stop saying it.
No. The battle lines have been drawn. God is looking for warriors now.
Oom Mah. You said penis. Repent!
Sure, why not. :)
the verse right before speaks of liars and im not...

Dyk the Bible should never be used as a weapon???
Not at all, the 3 men Job is talking to get told by God of their foolishness in Job 42 of what they are saying.

We should find wisdom first....

Proverbs 1:7 (The Message)

7 Start with God鈥攖he first step in learning is bowing down to God;

only fools thumb their noses at such wisdom and learning.

Then do what Jesus said!

Matthew 28

18 Then Jesus came to them and said, ';All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me.

19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in[a] the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit,

20 and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you.

We are to teach and you are to be silent and listen and learn.

May your learn as well as ask.

Todd

If you can't keep in your pants, keep it in the family = Good Biblical Advice?

Why did I know when you mentioned ';keeping it in the family'; the link was going to be about GA?

The nephew/son actually blames the mistress that started the whole ball rolling by saying ';We're not talking about Mother Teresa here';. He then went on to say that the women was an evil temptress that tricked his uncle/father into sleeping with her. It was the DNA tests she ordered that proved the minister had sired his own nephew.

According to the pastor's family, none of this was his fault.If you can't keep in your pants, keep it in the family = Good Biblical Advice?
They must think it's okay...wonder what the child is gonna think! =PIf you can't keep in your pants, keep it in the family = Good Biblical Advice?
The Judgment of God begins in the house of God.

I would say to all of these pastors, priests and preachers - Get you house in order or God will get it in order.
OH MY!

Satan leads an average person astray. 5 points.

Satan leads a church leader astray and

BIIIIINGOOOOO 5000 points.

Where do you think satan spends most of his time?
I've heard this is a common phenomenon in Christian families.
no links Sorry
No.
I am amazed that anyone could follow this person. I saw him many years ago, and knew then that he was a fraud.
he is 80 years old if they didn't catch him sooner Shame on them...

it is nice advice... to share

he welcomed his sister in law withopen arms and open pants
a young man got married down south one day-the morning after the wedding he went to have a talk with his father-he said that his wife had been a virgin and didnt know to much-the father said take her back if she wasnt good enough for kinfolk she isnt good enough for us--lol----is funny isnt it-how things can come back to haunt you when you think they were hidden-------smile and enjoy the day
That is sick and wrong...
Very interesting. 30 years ago if you would have even hinted that a church leader could be involved in such disgraceful behavior, you would have been hung from the rafters.

The odd thing was..that's when all the friggin corruption in the churches was going on!!!! All over North America.
No=Sin
LOL...I am gonna check the answers for this question...LOL
What's the Scripture reference?
'Tis better to be silent and be thought a fool, than to speak and remove all doubt.';

Abraham Lincoln

Can anyone give biblical advice on celebrating ''the Easter rabbit'' folklore?

should we as CHRISTIANS be telling our children there's a rabbit who hides easter eggs' ? just a question ,biblical question. it was talked about sunday at church.....Can anyone give biblical advice on celebrating ''the Easter rabbit'' folklore?
Personally? No, I love Easter and all the traditions around it. But I also gave my children their ';Easter Baskets'; on Sat. And we did all the Easter Egg hunts then as well. So on Sun. we could focus on the Resurrection of the Savior. i also shared with my children that the history of Easter traditions began long before Jesus, but we now associate the gift of new life with the gift that He gave us.

I believe in sharing ALL the truth. :)Can anyone give biblical advice on celebrating ''the Easter rabbit'' folklore?
No worse than Santa.
It is actually based on a pagan belief just like most of our Christian holidays. Personally I say no harm done
Relating Christ's ressurection to Easter eggs and Peter cottontail (the bunny) is more a political connection rather than one with faith. To understand where I'm coming from, here is a history lesson. During the time of the Roman Empire, Easter was a pagan holiday to celebrate the coming of spring, paying homage to the goddes Ostare, and fertility. It could also be related to the coming of spring. When Cristianity was legalized by in the 4th century A.D., the Council of Nicaea made the celebration of the resurrection around the time that the feast and celebration of Easter is observed. In order to make an easy transition, many still observe the pagan traditions (showing love for a bunny = animal with the greatest fertile drive and eggs as a symbol of birth and the growing of plants and vegetation) with a new connection with the risen Christ (many will relate a ressurection with a rebirth). Personally (not to confuse the pagan with the devine), I refer to the risen Christ as ';Resurrection Day';.
It is not biblical and it is pagan tradition. We are told to NOT keep the traditions of Pagans.

Celebrate the Risen Christ Jesus.

EDIT ...........

The bird is a good idea. This will teach the child to take care of and value a life and be responsible. Good choice! :)
Learn not the way of the heathen.

I need some Biblical advice on this, quick!!?

Okay, so I was just listening to this sermon on loving your enemies, and it inspired me to reach out to one of my enemies.

My fiance's stepfather really really hates me. In fact, he hates me to the point that he banned me from his house.. it's a long story, but to sum it up really fast, he got into a fight with my fiance's mother about how she loved her children more than him or something, and he banned ME from the house (even though I wasn't even there and hadn't been there in weeks) so that she could see my fiance either, because we live two hours apart and I'm the only one with the car.

So, I wrote him a letter after finding out about this telling him that whatever I did wrong, I was sorry, and I wanted us to make up. He never responded, and I later found out that he felt I was ';backing him into a corner'; which I don't even understand.

So.. it's been months, and I figured I'd send him an email tell him I still want to make up..

what do I say in the email?? How do you make an extremely mean person's heart melt? I need some Biblical advice on this, quick!!?
I find this question quite intriguing... Well I'm not a Christian, nor do I know much of the Bible, but I do have advice for you, and you may not like it...

The only way I can think of making up is to prove to him that your not joking when you say you want to mend the situation. So in your Email don't say sorry, or that you want to talk again. Be more direct, say something to the effect of, ';I want to start fresh, and I am willing to prove that I can do so'; You can mess around with it( so it's from you and your heart, not some dude on Yahoo)

Also, the purpose or the direct approach is to prove your not some sorry, whinny, baby that doesn't keep their words(not saying you are) it should give a better chance of mending your relationship.

-Best of luckI need some Biblical advice on this, quick!!?
Hi, how are you? Are you doing ok? I'd love to be able to see you and mom. Would you like to come and visit us? Can we visit you, we'd really like to see you. I think about you guys all the time.

Love Priscilla
why not invite him out for a beer, or to see a game if he still refuses , he is committing the worst sin of all, ';pride' and that 's his problem not yours, communicate with the mother
I think you're just going to have to let that fire die down.
I think 'I miss you' is very appropriate.
Prayer is the best thing, but it isn't always the quickest. Pray for him and all of his family unceasingly.
A little love at a time. He may not be able to take it in yet. Pray that God will soften his heart.
You're not going to be able to deal with this until you know and understand exactly why he did what he did.
You can't make someone change. The Holy Ghost has to do that. All you can really do is pray and try to be nice.
There is insufficient information to make a judgment on your situation. The only thing I can add is that your fiance with no car could indicate a man without a job. A man without a job has no business marrying anyone, unless you want to support him all your life. The other thing is that your fiance has lived with his father a long time. That is significant. Is there unresolved anger? Immaturity? Don't think for one moment that you can change anyone beside yourself. Love does not make up for all lack. What looks like love in the beginning can evaporate as quickly as the morning sun. Then you look back and regret. So even though emotions get in the way, look before you leap. After you leap, it is too late.
First of all, you don't make the person change...even with prayer when and how and even if it happens is on G-ds time. What I have found that prayer does is melt and soften my heart to the situation so that I stop

playing G-d and let go of my resentment, hurt, anguish etc. Who knows

this may be total grace for you in that you will have to step back from the

scenario and let your fiance figure out how to meet you ( bus, hitch a ride, car pool??? get a motorcycle?) That would be good. and in the waiting for the dust to fall, as they say in AA, more will be revealed.
Proverbs 18:19 and Proverbs 18:22 are good verses just for you

18:19-He who loves a quarrel loves sin; he who builds a high gate invites destruction.

18:22-A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.

As for what to say in the e-mail is up to you completely. Just don't do what he wants you to do, fight back. There is obviously more to the situation than you know, it will all work out eventually though.
Well, honey, some people won't BE loved. There are people out there who are so busy shutting you out that they don't want you in. If his response to your letter was that you are ';backing him into a corner'; he will see your email as ';harassment';, no matter how kindly you word it. I would let it rest for the time being. Otherwise it sounds like you will just make matters worse.

It is his house, and if he doesn't want you there (rightly or wrongly, I'm not saying he's right) he does have the right to say so. He's an adult, even if he's acting like a child, and you have to respect his decision.

Talk to your fiance, he may know his stepfather better than you do and be able to understand. It sounds like you are caught in the middle. If you haven't taken it up with him, do so.

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If you can't keep in your pants, keep it in the family = Good Biblical Advice?

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